To
address the issue on giving and
receiving, can be broken down
into 3 main categories.
1.
Reactive Response
2.
Carefully Consider
3.
Reflect and Reconsider Your
Responses
Let’s take a look at each
individual category:
1.
Reactive Response - Do you often
respond to others suggestions
with a reaction? Do you tend to
react to events and situations
rather than initiating or
instigating them? Do you have
emotional or physical reactions
in reply to certain situations?
Do you see others who respond to
situations with an emotional or
physical reaction? Take the
time to look at your reactions
when an incident arises. Also be
aware of how others react to you
and whilst you are in this
observing mode, try to avoid
blaming others and judging
others, just observe and see how
you react and response to
certain scenarios. What do you
feel when you are reacting or
responding to a negative
situation?
2.
Carefully Consider – On the
other hand, you can refrain from
reacting negatively to a certain
situation and perhaps carefully
consider what is going on. Maybe
you can take a step back, behind
the ‘short wall’ and observe
without judgment what roles
others are playing and
especially what drama game you
are playing with them. It is not
about putting the issue under
the rug to hide and forget about
it. It’s about taking the time
to reflect on things and think
carefully about something so
that you can carefully consider
your situation. It’s about
tactfully expressing your point
of view without holding back to
suppress your opinions. It is to
show respect and care and to be
thoughtful of somebody's
feelings. It is to carefully
weigh the pros and cons – to
feel the situation before making
a decision and a conscious
choice on what is your truth.
Whatever you do there is really
no right or no wrong, because
everything is an experience –
for you to learn, grow and
evolve in consciousness. If you
react or respond with any form
of emotion it is just giving you
clues to what fearful issues you
need to address for these are
just stuck energies that seek
release. Your reaction is the
first clue to what the issue is
about and when you are aware of
the issue you can ‘step back
behind the short wall’ without
judgement and agendas to
carefully consider how to handle
what is staring at you in your
mirror.
3.
Reflect and Reconsider Your
Responses – You need to be aware
of the influences from mass
consciousness and how their lack
of true compassion and
understanding, negative
thoughts, resentments, fears and
agendas, intolerance’s,
impatience and criticism affects
self and others. Many people are
stuck in old belief patterns
with strict family and cultural
patterns that dictate certain
dogmas, expectancies,
conditions, demands and
judgements, which all means
having an agenda. If you allow
others to influence, control or
depress you, you are allowing
them to take your power away.
It is up to you to be calm and
assertive, that is to be strong
in your opinions and yet soft
with care, compassion, calmness
and subtleness for another’s
journey. This is where you can
stand alone and in your power,
to not be influenced towards
another’s truth, even when you
are being judged and appear to
be different.
All
your experiences are appropriate
as it is serving you somehow. It
is up to you to feel and discern
your reactions to see if they
serve you in an empowering way
or in a disempowering way.
Whatever situation you are in
always accept and honour your
experiences. Always accept and
honour others for their journey
and bless their opinions without
taking on any intimidating and
influencing practices that may
disempower you. Use
discernment with what thoughts
come into your mind – let go of
the thoughts and feelings that
do not benefit you and keep the
ones that do benefit your
growth, empowerment and
well-being.
It is important to relax, to be
grounded so you can go within –
into your safe now moment deep
breathing space to attune and
reflect upon your responses.
These reactions are your
experiences, it is this energy
that you are radiating, and it
is reflected to you in your
reality – the intimate
connection with your reality
around you.
If these experiences are not
what you truly want, just let
them go and reconsider a new
choice potential. Integrate your
total self to breathe in all
that you are when stress occurs.
To do this, step into your safe
space in the now moment and deep
breath. Feel the energy within
your senses and discern what you
are feeling. Know what energy is
yours and what is not, decide
whether you choose to play with
that energy or let it go.
Remember that all energy seek
resolution, so when you choose
to stop playing with any energy,
just set it free and be daring
to choose again.
Copyright 2009 Pamela Skuse
www.whoamiformula.com
info@whoamiformula.com
