How You See and Treat
Yourself is Expressed in Your
Reality– Part 1.
and
Three
Influences that Lowers Your
Self-Esteem and Self-Worth
- Part 2.
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Perceptions of Self – How You
See and Treat Yourself is
Expressed in Your Reality – Part
1
Many
individuals do not recognise
that their self-esteem or
self-worth needs improving. As
long as they have the personal
good looks, status and material
needs they think that is all
that they need for success and
no one else is the wiser to what
is going on in their inner
world! It goes deeper than an
outer façade. Self-esteem and
self-image is an outer
reflection on their inner level
of self-love and self-worth.
Their level of worth is
expressed in their quality of
life, within their experiences
and what is happening in their
reality.
Human
self-esteem problems, issues and
challenges can be broken down
into four primary categories:
Recognise and address
your issue
Acknowledge and respect
yourself
Stand your ground with
assertion and
empowerment
Release disempowering
events, things and
people
Let’s take
a look at each individual
category:
Recognise and
address your issue.
The most important factor
for you to be able to raise
your self-esteem is for you
to uncover the issue that is
giving you a low self-worth
in the first place. Nobody
and nothing outside of you
can do it for you. Dressing
well and living in a nice
environment only addresses a
perception of your worth on
the outside – it is a
façade, if you have
imbalances within you, or
conflicts with those you
live and work with, you are
just covering up an
unfinished business. Even if
you are successful at your
work, your life’s
experiences, your health and
the quality of your
relationships will tell you
how much self-love,
self-worth and
self-acceptance you have.
Once you realise that you
have a low self-worth you
must be ready and willing to
do something about it.
Acknowledge
and respect yourself.
You need to be aware that
you attract to you what you
are within. You need to
acknowledge yourself, accept
yourself, love yourself,
honour all of your
experiences and choices
without regrets and to have
compassion for yourself
etc. Eg. If you do not
respect yourself, you will
attract others to you who
will treat you in a very
disrespectful manner. You
were born with 100% worth
and that is up to you to
claim your worth. A lower
self-esteem or worth is due
to allowing others to
belittle you, to influence
you into thinking that you
are not ‘good enough’ or you
do not deserve to be, do or
have something. You have
taken on their old truths as
your own. You now believe
that you are unworthy, it is
an old truth and that is how
people will treat you. If
you feel that you don’t
deserve, or are unworthy or
you do not love yourself in
anyway – it is a truth that
you have formed, your
masquerade story, which is
now your lie. It is only
your perception on how you
see yourself and therefore
how you treat yourself
either with belittlement
emotionally or physically.
How you see and treat
yourself is reflected back
to you as ‘like attracts
like’ scenario in your
health, relationships and
abundance aspects.
Stand your
ground with assertion and
empowerment.
Once you make a conscious
choice to raise your
self-esteem and self-worth -
be alert to sabotage or you
will retreat from exploring
this empowering journey
fully. The level of your
self-worth also relates to
the level of your assertion
and empowerment. Once you
begin to practice self-worth
strategies you will soon
develop more assertion and
empowerment qualities. You
will not be so timid in
standing your ground towards
others manipulations. Once
you begin to stand your
ground, your family, friends
and workmates may dislike it
as your personality-identity
changes. The sabotage is:
when you have a low
self-worth, people usually
walk all over you and when
you hold high regard for
yourself and honour yourself
and stand in your power, you
will not allow them to wipe
their feet on your worthy
doormat. This can create a
conflict in your
relationships and you are in
danger of retreating if you
are not prepared to get out
of your comfort zone and
‘stand alone’. Change may
cause a conflict in the
beginning, but if there is
unconditional love present
with that relationship they
will come around to support
you, otherwise they will
leave your life, because
they cannot get what they
want from you. If you give
up on continuing to raising
your level of worth due to
family or social challenges,
you can retreat back into
appeasement, obligation and
compromise. If you are not
prepared to release anything
and anyone who is feeding
off you or stealing your
energy in order to support
their self-absorbed needs
you may stop trying to
improve your perception of
self. That means, if
anyone who cannot support
you and allow you to choose
your own journey, those who
do not respect you for who
you are and who you can
become or those who try to
control you through their
agendas to get what they
want – let them go, they
don’t serve you in an
empowering way. That is
conditional love.
Release disempowering
events, things and people.
The greatest gift anyone can
give to you whilst you are
choosing to raise your
self-worth and your
consciousness is their love
and support - with
compassion but without
judgement and agendas – no
matter what you choose to
do, even if it seems a silly
or wrong choice for them.
Whatever path you choose to
walk down is appropriate for
you, for that is what you
need to experience to
develop your growth and
awareness.
True
compassion is not just about
sadness and pity - it is
allowing you to choose your
journey without others trying to
control you, without others
trying to change you or to
enforce their righteous ways
upon you. Having an agenda or
expectation of trying to enforce
and change you or what they
think you should be, do or have,
places limitations and controls
onto you. They will disempower
you if you allow others to
control you, which will result
in you retreating into
submission or resisting and
rebelling with conflicting drama
games. Any self-absorbed
limitation combined with
conditional love suffocates
relationships - causing conflict
and breakdowns within
relationships, as well as your
health and abundance levels.
This also means that you need
true compassion for yourself for
all the choices and experiences
that you have had. To be able to
raise your self-esteem is to
release anything or anyone who
does not serve your growth.
As you let
go of things or people who do
not serve you, you may feel that
you are left stranded or alone
with only a few to support you.
As you stand in your power, you
will attract other people into
your life who will respect you
for who you are, you will
attract new relationships based
on unconditional love into your
life and you will attract more
abundant opportunities.
Perceptions of Self – Three
Influences that Lowers Your
Self-Esteem and Self-Worth –
Part 2
Your belief
in not feeling worthy enough,
not being good enough, not
deserving, not feeling
confident, not being able to
measure up to compare or compete
against others standards or any
other self-image experience that
you have created, is just being
a victim of demonic scenarios to
where you fall short to others
demands, which you have allowed
these outside influences to
dominate and control you.
Humanities
self-worth issues can be broken
down into three primary
categories:
Are you a victim or a
master of your life?
Do you measure up or
fall short to others
demands?
How do you perceive your
flaws, your demons?
Let’s take
a look at each individual
category:
Are you a victim or a master
of your life?
When you feel that you are a
victim, you have a need for
that energy. Your victim
energy is feeding off others
that will serve you in some
way. That serving energy is
not an empowering energy,
but a disempowered,
enslaving and draining
energy. When you dwell upon
victim circumstances, you
are getting something out of
living that drama game,
there is a secondary gain
concept that is feeding you,
there is a pay-off scenario
that is serving you, but in
a disempowering way. When
you blame things and others
for everything that happens
to you, you are not only
irresponsible for creating
your experiences, but you
keep that drama story alive,
you bring your past into
your future – to relive your
past drama games. That
energy aspect will keep
haunting you until you
address and release its
stuck wounds. You keep
yourself imprisoned and you
attract events into your
life on what you dwell upon.
Nothing and nobody can
influence you and drain your
energy or disempower you
unless you allow it. You
allow it by giving
permission to allow people
to treat you that way. You
allow it by belittling
yourself and not loving,
accepting, nurturing and
taking care of yourself. You
also give permission for
others to mistreat you by
buying into their drama
stories, their manipulations
when you do not own and live
your core truth, when you do
not stand in your power and
when you are not responsible
for the events that happen
to you. To let go of victim
experiences and become a
master of your life you need
to be 100% responsible for
all of your experiences,
including the unconscious
ones. Even the miserable
events, bless and accept
them, see the gift within
every experiences for that
is when your consciousness
will grow and expand. When
you look back at the event,
you will see it differently,
thorough different eyes -
with openness, awareness,
understanding, acceptance
and wisdom. That is what
will expand your
consciousness.
Do you measure up or fall
short to others demands?
One of the biggest scenarios
to lowering your worth is
allowing others to belittle
you and control you. To
avoid intimidation you feel
the need to measure up to
their standards or so you
can compete against others.
Because the human instinct
has a desire to love, to be
loved and to belong, all
outside conditions, agendas,
judgments and controls place
a lot of burdens upon your
shoulders. Therefore you go
out of your way to appease
others just to keep the
peace, you feel obligated to
satisfy their desires so
they talk well about you and
you compromise your truth in
order for them to accept
you. In order to satisfy
their requests you map out
something, you design and
plan so you can ‘figure out’
something to fulfil them. So
you don’t fall short, you
measure up not only once,
but you measure up twice –
which brings in the lack of
trust. Then, if you get sick
of struggling and fighting
to gain respect you give up
and stop trying. Have you
noticed that your level of
worth is all about your
perception on how others
will perceive you if you
don’t or can’t conform to
their rules and benchmarks.
Again you are allowing
others outside of you to
dictate your level of worth,
but when you raise your
perception about yourself,
your level of worth you will
not attract people into your
life who make you feel
inferior. If these
experiences occur, always
look at yourself to observe
how you see and treat
yourself and when you change
that scenario is when you
change how others see and
treat you.
How do you perceive your flaws,
your demons? You are made up of
many facets and aspects of
self. These components are the
roller-coaster of your ups and
downs, hills and valleys of your
story games, your many faces of
fearful moods, your devilish
beliefs, your daydreams or
nightmares, and your unworthy,
untrusting, and scarcity demon
aspects etc – are all aspects of
‘you’. You are everyone of these
aspects, they are a truth of
your past and it is your
creation that is still haunting
you from these unworthy
experiences. You created them
and forgotten about them a long
time ago, but you still believe
you are unworthy because it is
stored as a belief in your
subconscious. In fact, that
story truth is not your true
essence, it is not who you are -
it is a lie. You cannot remember
most of these demonic aspects
that you created in order to
help you cope with a certain
situation and you are now still
playing that game. You
reinforced your story of who you
think you are so much it has
become real, you have proven it
and it is now your truth. At
your core, it is an illusion, it
is an old truth, it is your lie,
for that is not who you are, it
is a past truth that does not
serve you in an empowering way
at your present level of
consciousness.
You are ‘you’ in this moment,
everything else is an aspect of
the past. Whatever you cry out
for is what you will receive.
If you cry out that you don’t
like yourself, or you don’t
respect yourself - you will get
that back. The aspects are
playing that victim game and
that is where your attention is
flowing, which is what you are
unconsciously choosing. When
you unlock and unleash that
stuck energy of your demonic
flaws, when you let your
unworthy, unloving or scarcity
stories go, they don’t get to be
bigger demons, they don’t come
back to make mince meat of you.
They get to revert back to
‘you’, back to your pure essence
in a way that no longer drains
you or frightens you or controls
you, but actually goes back to
its pure energy that is here to
serve you in an empowering way
in that now moment.
