7. Fear of Past Wounds and
Failures and Fear of Success –
Part 1.
and
8. Dwelling upon Lack, and not
Stepping Out of Your Comforts
and Controls – Part 2.
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What Sabotages Success – Fear of
Past Wounds and Failures and
Fear of Success – Part 1.
The
majority of individuals who
choose to venture into
developing a new project have
had past failures, they have had
experiences which can limit or
stagnate new opportunities. Due
to these old wounds, they can
also bring in a fear of success,
which go back to how they see
themselves, their level of
self-worth. The potholes and
the underlying foundation of
past experiences can often
sabotage any new potential, even
when change is beginning to
occur.
Human problems, issues and challenges always
relate to fear - fear being the
greatest motivator in our
society. Some failures are due
to the fear of:-
Being ridiculed, rejected, humiliated or belittled
Not being accepted or belonging to a group and
having a feeling or being
left alone
Making a mistake or failing at something and not
being able to achieve.
Being compared with others, which makes you feel
that you may not be good
enough.
Not being loved or having love so others can
support you on your journey.
Change and fear of the unknown
Independence, by not being able to depend on
others and seeking
validation in their advice
All kinds of lack, doubt, trust, confidence by
holding on to judgments and
agendas.
All these fears lower your self-worth and your
ability to achieve and succeed
and can lead to 3 more
influences:
1.
Fight Response
2.
Flight Response
3.Fear
of Success
Let’s take a look at these 3 categories:
Fight -
When you are approached by a
series of unpleasant
experiences, one usual
action is to judge with a
fearful ‘fight reaction.’
These fears of failure
stress you so much that it
forces you to strive harder,
to work harder, to fight for
what you want, to control
yourself with burdens and
disciplines so you get the
right answers, to push your
way through to get the right
opportunities, but when you
get there you’re tired,
stressed and exhausted, and
often ill. The joy of
travelling the journey of
achieving was lost and the
desire to continue does not
seem so bright. The more you
fight for things, the more
these methods back-fire, as
you will never get anywhere
by bettering yourself
through fighting. These
unproductive methods only
return to inner conflict,
because you are looking
outside of yourself. You
are only dwelling on one
level and that is your
material needs and your
emotional, physical and
spiritual needs are
ignored. This imbalance
from inner conflicts is
expressed in your world as
outer turmoil, because
striving by taking from
yourself the joys of living
or taking from others in
self-absorbed ways is being
an empty vessel, and it will
not bring fulfilment and
inner satisfaction, whether
you actually succeed or not.
Flight
– Another reaction may be to
sweep the issue under the
rug, and then run and hide
from it. This only denies
or ignores the existence of
the experience and this
behaviour comes from a
fearful ‘flight reaction.’
The fears of failure can
stress you so much that you
retreat from trying to
achieve. Everywhere you
look there are limitations,
there are roadblocks in
every path and you just
can’t seem to get past these
structured obstacles,
conditions and controls
unless you bully your way
through. Somehow, having a
bully attitude does not seem
right, so you give up, you
develop a ‘flight’ response
to where you become the
victim to appeasement,
obligation and compromise in
order to give to others and
have a quieter life. Again
you have inner conflict, you
would like a better material
world, but you feel that you
don’t want to fight the mass
limitations, because you see
yourself as not worthy
enough to have it. Again
this attitude of lack
endorses itself because you
do not give to yourself and
you do not allow yourself to
receive. This creates the
empty vessel, to where you
cannot be fulfilled and
satisfied.
Fear of
Success – Due to a poor
self-worth lack of trust you
dwell upon your past
failures. You see yourself
as still being the same
person in that failed past
suit, so you keep belittling
yourself for your mistakes.
When you fear stepping out
of your comfort zone, or
when you think you are not
grand enough to walk in the
shoes of a successful
person, you hinder the
process of acting upon and
attracting your new
potential. Because of your
past incapability’s and the
lack of confidence you feel
that you have a tall order
to fill to be able to
achieve your desires. When
you dwell upon the outer
reality, you cannot know
anything else but what you
dwell upon. This is because
‘the mind does not know what
is beyond what it knows!’
Fear limits you, and it
prevents you from obtaining
a successful happy balanced
life. Fear squashes your
ability to discover your
unlimited potentials, giving
you far greater misery than
the problem itself. That is,
your fear that was created
from the emotional
root-cause is often greater
that putting up with its
symptom, a persistent
physical conflicting pain or
illness.
Through
your daily life, things may
happen around you, or to you,
but the important thing is what
happens in you. Nothing is
really good or bad, right or
wrong. Failure is how you view
it, what perception or spin you
put on it. You don’t have to
let other people or conditions
determine how you will think or
feel or act, even if they do not
approve to what has happened.
You take responsibility of your
own life, by always choosing to
respond to everything from your
highest consciousness. You can
define your failures as a
learning process and an
important step in your growth.
Apart from not trying to do
anything at all, there is no
failure – it is just another
experience. Therefore, failure
should not be perceived as a bad
thing, it means that you are
just a little closer in growing
to a success in revealing your
goal due to the lessons that you
have learnt.
To go
beyond failure is about turning
past failed gravestones, the
wounds of your past experiences
into future successful
landmarks. It means the impact
of the past does not have to
limit you unless you allow it.
It is to be willing to release
the past, to let ‘old dogs lie
in peace’, so you don’t have to
continually bring up the buried
past wounds for that was your
old truth. Through your learnt
experiences you now hold a
higher level of consciousness, a
grander spin on how you see
yourself, your life and your
abilities. That is your new
truth and when you accept all of
your experiences and hold
compassion for yourself for
having experienced them, when
you honour yourself for giving
yourself those experiences in
the name of growth and expanding
consciousness, you will see
yourself differently and your
perceptions of worth will
increase – that is when you will
become a full vessel and you
will have something to give.
When you can give to yourself as
a full vessel you can give to
others and they will come to
you, they will be attracted to
your energy for your services,
products or knowledge because of
your success within yourself.
What Sabotages Success –
Dwelling upon Lack, and not
Stepping Out of Your Comforts
and Controls – Part 2.
If you dwell on the things
outside of yourself and things
that you don’t like, you not
only regard them as an effort or
a duty to do them, but you also
bring back that energy, you
bring in more of what you don’t
want.
The roller-coaster goes around
and around, magnifying what you
don’t want and reinforcing in
your reality that it does exist
– it’s proven and it is a truth,
but it is also a lie, if you
didn’t consciously choose to
have that into your life.
Human problems, issues and
challenges that relate to past
failures that sabotage future
success can be broken down into
3 main categories.
1. Dwindling Money Supplies
2. Staying in Your Comfort Zone
3. Controlling Rules
Let’s take a look at each
individual category:
Dwindling Money Supplies -
To restart any new venture
you need funding and if you
have to spend money on that
venture perhaps you are in
scarcity thinking of ‘just
enough to survive’ mode.
Have you said,’ my last
failed venture took all my
money, its gone and used up,
so there is not enough to go
round’! Money is another
energy form of exchange for
giving and receiving. It is
all about allowing the
energy of money to flow in
and flow out, to move it so
that more money energy can
flow in. It’s about how you
perceive money, the
limitations of who has it
and who hasn’t got it, and
what you do with your money,
whether you keep in your
hands, holding onto it so
tightly, resisting giving
and sharing. This stops the
flow of money going to
others as well as flowing
back to you. Another is
allowing money to dwindle
between your fingers and
lose the lot, allowing
others to take it from you
through their feeding and
disempowering events. Look
at your relationship with
money and then look at what
kind of relationship you
have with yourself. When you
do get money you let it go,
but the gift is allowing it
to come back into your life.
Money is giving yourself the
abundance of life - it is
allowing yourself to receive
the joy of living – it is a
reflection of your level of
worth, of how much you
deserve to receive
something. What beliefs do
you have that stops the flow
of money coming to you? Have
a relationship with yourself
first so you can have a good
relationship with money.
Staying in Your Comfort Zone
- The saying goes -
‘Fear follows if you run and
fear retreats when you face
what you fear the most’. It
is very easy to get caught
up in your home comforts,
being in a warm cosy safe
space when change begins to
occur at the manifesting
time of a new venture. Being
too attached to your cosy
home comforts - that is what
you know, does not allow you
to expand out to see and do
other things.
When you dwell upon your
fear of the outer reality,
you cannot know anything
else but what you dwell
upon. It takes courage and
trust to take the first step
forward, from your cosy
comforts and step into the
unknown and face change.
Take action, do anything at
first, and allow your
intuition to guide you and
be daring to choose again if
it is not what you want.
Controlled Rules -
Control limits the structure
of energy. Control stops
energy from flowing in and
flowing out, it keeps you in
lack and it keeps you in
your fearful comfort zone of
what ‘should be’ and ‘what
if’. It keeps you in the
controls of your mind of
what you know and that is
only what you or others have
experienced – often based on
past wounds. Control of
your own self-made rules
keeps you stuck in the
influences of mass
consciousness. Nothing else
grander than the perceptions
of your experiences can come
in unless you learn to let
go of the controls and the
strong disciplines you have
developed for yourself. It
is not about being
controlled by others or
controlling others. It’s
about letting go of
controlling yourself through
mental force, fighting,
striving and holding on to
agendas and ‘figuring out’
mental concepts. This only
stresses the mind, thus
creating more controls and
rules. Controls stagnates
your energy, where it
stifles true freedom and due
to the fear of placing rules
on yourself, you restrict
the flow of energy.
Restriction creates
resistance and resistance
brings pain and suffering.
It closes your heart to
allow something new – beyond
your present imagination to
come in. Then, you only have
the mind left to rely on.
If the mind is stressed and
worn out with fear and
worry, that is all that you
will attract to you – the
fear and worry of failure,
even the fear of success.
Fear brings in doubt, which
relates to mistrust and
unworthiness.
This is not about letting go of
mass consciousness controls and
rules, for that is in place for
the humans who are imbalanced
within themselves and society.
It is about disconnecting from
the controls that you have made
for yourself – what you look
like, what you wear, what you
eat, what you must do, be and
have that enforces comparison
against others. Many of these
rules have originally come from
the demands, conformities and
structures of society, handed
down for centuries, but you can
disconnect from their truth and
begin to feel and discern what
is your conscious truth – which
is only what you consciously
choose – everything else is the
hypnotic belief structure and
overlays from your past and the
influences of mass
consciousness.
Energy is always self-seeking -
it seeks release, freedom and
expansion. Repetitive failures
will always occur until you
address it – fear always follows
when you run from it. When you
are unwilling to release old
ways, old truths about the issue
of failure, will come back for
resolution. When you feel a
fear, and you react to that
fear, you are not holding your
energy balance, you are not in a
safe place and you will allow
that fear to disempower you and
limit a new potential to come
in. All stuck energy seeks
resolution and when you choose
and act upon a new potential,
when you face your fear, that
fear will dissolve and your new
potential can manifest - that is
when your future is the past
healed.
