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FEBRUARY 2010

This article-newsletter is about another wise outcome to a conflict scenario that happened in January.  In this article-newsletter it addresses both aspects of duality, the perpetrator and the victim role games. The first part of the article-newsletter is about the perpetrator, but the majority of this article was about the victim - why? Perpetrators are control freaks - they get what they want from taking from others, so they never need to search for a better way - they cannot look at themselves, because their superior ego overrules everything - they get what they want through force, control, manipulation and emotional blackmail.

 On the other hand, victims of abuse whether it is emotional or physical abuse, eventually gets so sick and tired of being put down that they have the motive to improve their life - to get out of their drama story game. Just because you play victim games it doesn't make you a never-ending victim - Personal Development is tough when you have to look at yourself in the mirror - it not for the faint hearted.  New Energy is tough when you have to look at your life - it's not for those who seek sugar-coated messages that temporarily makes you feel better. True change doesn't come from a blind superficial facade, it only comes from getting into the nitty-gritty, to transform right down to your core. New Energy Personal Development messages will give you great insights when you can move beyond victim thinking.

Express Openly

A close and unconditional loving relationship has a special bond, they are interconnected, yet they are also separated. They don’t need to feed off each others energy in order to fulfil the self, to make the self feel secure and worthy.  Their vessel is already full – with love, honour and compassion and with no agendas. They can live and practice what they preach, to live their authentic nature without putting their abusive baggage and burdens onto another. They allow each other their personal freedom, to soar individual through the open valleys of their heart. Yet, they can also soar together, to enjoy life together without placing any fearful manipulating, controlling child-like tantrums onto each other.

Be like the close-knit sea eagles that can fly high through the valleys of their heart alone or to choose to share their time with another. The sea eagles can fly alone or together, still unified with unconditional bondage, because they are without the fear and worries of ‘what about me’ agendas.

To address the issues of ‘express openly’ can be broken down into 14 categories. 

1. Perpetrator Role Game

2. Perpetrator’s Deceptive Feeding Game

3. Victim Role Game

4. Expressing Duality

5. It Doesn’t Matter

6. Stop Looking Outside of Self

7. Nothing Can Affect You

8. Disconnect from Drama Games

9. Discover the Wisdom

10. Express Openly

11. Open Up and Feel Safe

12. Live Your Authentic Nature

13. Fear of Uncertainty Brings in Retreating Instead of Expanding

14. Play and Allow Energy to Flow

Let’s take a look at each category.

1. Perpetrator Role Game - When you are having a conflicting experience is stating that you have something within you that needs addressing. If it is deceit – are you deceiving yourself?  If you are frank and open – are you being open and true to yourself.  Even openness and honesty can create conflicting experiences because you or others may not resonate with looking at a different level of perception or truth. If you are dishing out ‘what about me’ scenarios – do you feel insecure and unworthy? Is that lack of worth bringing about deceitful experiences – about you not being open and honest with yourself – about you not being able to look at and express that wounded stuck aspect that is sabotaging you.  What are you hiding and who are you hiding from? Why is that secretive aspect manipulating you, so that you have to abuse another to get attention, to feed that insecure and unworthy wound? What you feel within - is reflected and expressed in the outer, so you can receive that thing.  It is stating your lack of self-worth and mistrust through the belittlement of yourself and is often manipulatively expressed by abusing another – i.e. that another is being made out to have done something wrong – that’s the abuse, which is often done through control, manipulation and emotional blackmail.
    

2. Perpetrator’s Deceptive Feeding Game - Deception is playing a power-play drama game, underlying a forceful desire to get what you want, behind closed doors and at the expense of others. It is an unreal fear that leads to control, manipulation and power over the fear of not getting something you want, like getting the attention of feeling worthy and secure, of being possessive – the threat of losing something or someone, or trying to get a material asset or the fear of another doing something that makes you feel even more unsafe, insecure and unworthy – the agendas. Deceit, the wounds of mistakes, as well as every other fearful emotional mood is a feeding drama game of where, you the perpetrator takes energy from your victim to buffer your insecure secretive wounded aspect.  Often, you’ll say to your victim that ‘it is for your own good’ or that ‘others are abusing you’, but it is you abusing the one that you think you love, it is you being possessive and controlling over another.  When you have complete honour, love, compassion, acceptance and blessing for yourself and all of your experiences, you will feel secure and worthy. You will be able to ‘walk your talk’, by giving the one you love freedom to be themselves and you will not try to abusively enforce your controlling conditions and agendas onto them, in order to make your ego feel more superior. Any secretive wounds that you are hiding becomes deceptive scenarios because you are not addressing what has hurt you, therefore you take that hurt out onto others, to abuse others to cover up your old wounds, just to please and conform to that aspect of self.  When you are taking from another - who is controlling you, who is the manager of you, who is the boss of you – it is your dark wounded aspects and not your core authentic nature.
    

3. Victim Role Game - However, the victim attracts their perpetrator to them. When you have complete honour, love, compassion, acceptance and blessing for you and all of your experiences, you will not deceive yourself from receive the worthiness and love of self by expressing who you really are. You will not attract those aspects scenarios into your experiences, because self-love and self-worth will raise your level of consciousness, to where the perpetrator will seek their victims elsewhere. When you respect yourself, you will automatically respect others and this goes down to every attribute.  The paradox of duality reveals both scenarios, your experiences are not about you anymore – that’s if you are the manager of your aspects and the master of your life, to where you feel, discern and let go of stuck energy from the masses. But your experiences are also about you if you buy into the drama energy of mass consciousness. Then, you are just a mirror on what you think you are doing to yourself and how you see yourself and your life around you.
    

4. Expressing Duality - Relationships are based on expressing duality, to discover and learn about the self. These are the drama games that you play, that you give yourself these experiences so you can expand in consciousness. As you move into a new energy world, you place yourself into tricky positions to experience certain deceitful or overly frank scenarios to enforce you to be more open to express your authentic nature. However there is a tendency to shut down even more when you move into feeling stressed, hurt, unsafe, insecure and unworthy. The emotions can play a powerful role, but it is at this point is when you must truly make conscious choices of what you are feeling, what is yours and what is not and what you want to real and what you want to be unreal in your life – this means what you choose to be real doesn’t have to be actually factually happening at that moment. You are planting the suggestion potentials seeds to transmute unwanted energies into potentials energies of what you choose to manifest in the future of the new now moment.
    

5. It Doesn’t Matter - The most important aspect of having any unpleasant experience is that you must take full responsibility for attracting that experience to you. It doesn’t matter whether you are honest or deceitful or whether others are honest or deceitful towards you.  It doesn’t matter what others think, say, have, do or not do. What matters is how you think, how you feel, how you react and what you do – is what matters. Yes, others may have hurt you and vice versa in the past, so leave it there. Tomorrow is always fresh – don’t bring yesterday’s wounds into your future. Everything time you bring up old wounds as silent thoughts or verbally expressing them, you are bringing that fear into your future, you are looking outside of yourself and you are keeping you drama games alive.  
    

6. Stop Looking Outside of Self - When you look outside of self you cannot be connect to your authentic nature. So you see, when you attract these drama games into your life, you have something to address and so do the others who are playing the game with you.  They will have different scenarios to discover, but if you didn’t have your issue to be addressed you wouldn’t attract that type of experience to you.  On the other hand, the people who are playing these games with you, if they hadn’t had these issues to address they wouldn’t be attracted to you to unfold it; they would find others to collide with to enforce them to face their issue.  
    

7. Nothing Can Affect You - Basically, if you take on an attitude that ‘it doesn’t matter’ and that ‘everything will work out’, and ‘not all things are what they seem’ you will come to the understanding that nothing that anybody thinks, says, does and reacts to, does not have to affect you – unless you allow it. Let go of the human condition that you need to love, to be loved and to be accept and to belong – it keeps you in the mode that ‘everything matters’ and these perceptions disempower. Nothing and nobody can take your power away, unless you buy into their drama game.  You do that by loosing your temper and getting frustrated, trying to convince them about how you perceive the issue, become emotionally hurt, disappointed and upset etc. The point is, if somebody is abusing you or trying to control you, can you disconnect from their energy and move on?  Can you move on to where they cannot feed off you through control and manipulation? Do you fear that disconnecting and moving on will separate your physical connection and activities with the perpetrator?  If so, does it really matter? Remember that ‘love has no connection’ – love is setting another free and if they choose to be with you that is great, if not and if they disempower you, move on.
    

8. Disconnect from Drama Games - The new energy is about disconnecting from the hypnotic beliefs and overlays and the seductive energies of mass consciousness. When you are in conflict with others, it doesn’t matter if you don’t state your opinions, because they are at a different level of consciousness, they are fully into the drama game and are not interested in what you have to say. Don’t play their games, ignore their angry tantrums, walk away and free yourself from their energy.  Don’t do what they want you to do, just to please them, be true to yourself, know your truth, live your truth, express your truth, do what is important to you, but don’t buy into their games, by loosing your power.  You can only do this when you disconnect from their drama energies so you can stand alone and stand your ground.
    

9. Discover the Wisdom - When you stand alone and stand your ground nothing can take your power away.  These games are unpleasant, be brave and see the gift, the beauty and blessing within the games that others play – you learn from these games. When you take responsibility for creating these scenarios, without taking on this drama energy, you will discover the wisdom in the event - that is what will inspire and expand your consciousness.  The wisdom can be many different things, but the main factor is to take your focus off the outside world and place your focus on your inner self.  You are a creator, you unconsciously created this scenario at some level.  When you keep your focus on the outside reality, you draw in those energies that supports what you are dwelling on – the dramas of ‘what about me’ scenarios, ‘who will help, support and provide for me’ – who are you dependent on is your attention pay-off.  When you keep your focus on your creator abilities, your inner authentic nature, you will soon learn to consciously create – what you consciously choose to have in your life.  When you make that choice to release your drama game, energy will change, it will move quickly and your life will change too.
    

10. Express Openly - To be able to live your authentic nature is to open up, to be able to express openly.  This means you don’t have to force your views onto others, because if you do you not only have an agenda and lack compassion, but you’re not honouring their journey, in order for them to discover themselves.  When they resonate with what you do, that is when you can openly express to them who you are, but in the mean time, be who you are, do what you choose to do, live your authentic nature, even if it against others wishes – their fears and agendas.  To be able to express openly is about not holding back being, doing and having what is important to you.  It is to live what you feel is in your heart, without appeasement, obligations and compromising your heart-felt choices.
     

11. Open Up and Feel Safe - To be able to express openly is to open your heart, you can only open up when you feel safe. In each and every moment, be in your safe space, especially when conflict is around. In the new energy, there is the potential right here and now to be safe all of the time, if you allow it and if your attention is in a safe space. Your safe space is real. It is as real as you choose it to be – to be in this safe-now-moment space. Your conscious choice is your truth and your truth forms your reality, everything else is your lie – the drama story illusions of human reality.
     

12. Live Your Authentic Nature - To be able to express yourself easily and freely is to let go of fear – the fear of what if – what others will say or do – the fear of loss and the fear of the loss of control and having power over others or others controlling you. To be honest is to be able to love and trust yourself so much that you can stand alone if need be, if or when others do not agree with your truth. Once again, it doesn’t matter what they say or do, it only matters what you feel and how you react to the circumstance. If you react to in a deceitful or negative scenario, you are giving your power away to the feeding mechanism going on between you and the other person. Both parties are gaining something, a pay-off from the experience. To be open is to feel safe and when you feel safe you will trust yourself implicitly to be able to express openly without the fear of criticism and judgment. To express openly is to live your authentic nature, to live your truth to become all that you can be. To live your truth is to only consciously choose what you choose to have in that now moment.
     

13. Fear of Uncertainty Brings in Retreating Instead of Expanding - Trying to express your energies can bring up fear; it brings up the fear of uncertainty of how to express yourself and when you do what happens. Fear has a tendency for you to go backwards, to fall back into old ways, to retreat instead of expanding, which would have a negative impact that will imbalance and unstable you. Know that when you begin to express and live who you are, there is no ground to lose, no one can ever take away the wisdom, knowledge and enlightenment that you have gained – it is always there.  Sometimes, when conflict arises, you wish that you never travelling down this road, so you step away from you, you block it out, but then you have an irritation or nudging deep within, it is you telling yourself to get back into your safe inspiring aware space – to BEAP – to breathe with ease, awareness and to be in your point of presence.
     

14. Play and Allow Energy to Flow – The retreating instead of expanding scenario is putting up limited barriers around you. You put up these limited conditions so you don’t have to get out of your starting gate, your victim comfort zone. These old energy boundary walls are about your past mistakes and failures that stop you from bringing in new ideas.  It is time to express yourself, to play with life, to have fun and enjoy life, to do things that you’ve dreamt about, without waiting for another to help and support you. So if things aren’t working in your usual way, try something new, because energy doesn’t like to be held in and restricted, allow energy to flow through you, allow your creativity to be expressed through you, allow your abundance, health, love and worth to flow through you. New energy flows, it expands, it needs to flow; it needs room to flow, to have a life of its own.  When you are creating and expressing that creation you are giving life to your thoughts and ideas, they are yours, but you are the Creator of these things. When you give them life of their own, you are playing the role of a Creator on Earth, these creations emanated from you, so they can expand in a new way beyond your present level of consciousness and then come back to you as new potentials in that now moment.